Little did we know, as parents, we tend to say things that our kids aren’t supposed to hear. We aren’t aware that some things we say may tarnish their feelings. Sometimes we say things that we didn’t mean anything bad behind it, but we say it for the sake of saying it. There are times that we say it just to scare our kids so they won’t dare to do such things anymore.
Don’t we ever think that if we at least be a little bit nicer to our kids won’t make them feel like they are the bad ones? As a parent, I believe we are aware that our children’s heart is soft and easily touched even on the littlest of thing. To make things better and to enhance the relationship with your children, here are the things that you should never say to your kids. Let’s get to it!
Things You Should Never Say To Your Kids
We know that words have the power to make or break people. No matter what, we should always think, relate and only say things that won’t hurt the other person. The same thing applies to our children. Here are the things that you shouldn’t say or do to your kids:
Helping Them Immediately
Do you know how parents often lend a helping hand way before their kids ever need one? That moment when your kids just about to do what they want to do and suddenly you notice something is off, you rushed over to help them even when they didn’t ask for one.
Actually, it is better to let him/her just do it! No matter if it is correct or not, just let your child do it. You should be able to let your kids use their critical thinking skill and let them try to solve on their own. Let them have their own independence. Don’t make them depend on you too much. They aren’t shrinking younger but growing older each day. Relying on your on certain thing is fine but teach them how to do it day by day will allow them to do things on their own.
Those White Lies You Tell
White lies can be considered as parents primary weapon. Why do I say it is a weapon? You remember those white lies you tell your kids so that they behave or do things as you wish? Well, truth be told it isn’t good for us to keep telling those harmful lies too much even if you think it is for their own good.
Lying isn’t something that you should be teaching your kids. Rather than sugarcoating the truth, you might as well tell them the way they understand it. If by saying will hurt them, just tell them but choose proper words and intonation. Don’t keep sugarcoating the words. As the saying goes, honesty is the best policy.
The Labelling, Comparing And Criticism
No matter how hard we try to deny, it is true that most Asian parents like to compare, labelling and even criticise even our own children. As bad as it seems, some parents like to compare their own children with any other child that is better than their own kids. Some even starting to label them with negative names, and criticise their hard work just because they are not doing as good as the other. To be honest, this practice is bad.
Doing that will not motivate them to do better, but they will feel demotivated, useless, and worse, it will make them feel you don’t love them as much and do not accept them the way they are. Rather than doing that, why don’t you teach them to be their best version of themselves? Just like us, every individual (in this case, the children) is different. As a parent, it is our responsibility to guide and teach them about the things that they are lacking. Our children will learn from their parents as parents are kids’ main role model.
Praising Problem
Some parents are known to have a touch time praising their own kids. Often, they will give this generic praise which simply sounds like “that’s good”, “good job”, “well done” etc. Instead of refraining from praising your little one, it is good to praise them just like you really mean it once in a while. Praising our kids will show that you care and proud of their achievement, no matter what it is. Be an attentive parent and show them how proud you are of their effort!
Expectation, Expectation And More Expectation
Giving and having a high expectation from our children is not really a good habit. As a parent, you should know that by putting such high expectation towards anything will lead you to disappointments.
Your kids may not be good at specific subjects or things, but you are having high hopes on them to score with flying colours. Instead of putting pressure on them, you should allow your kids to do things that they love and passionate about. We, parents, need to keep on supporting them through their ups and downs. Always try to help them build their own passion so they will grow up to be a respectable person.
If you refrain from saying or do these things to your children, trust me, you will be proud of your them even more. Plus, your children will grow up to be happier and healthier. After all, we are all humans, and we need kindest and love to make us feel good.
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