As Asians, most women would prefer marrying someone older than them. It’s not common to hear a woman say, “I dream of marrying someone younger than me.” It seems like a woman marrying a man younger than her only happens unexpectedly. It is not something that would seem ideal for most women.
Just like my own parents, my mother is two years older than my father. My mother never planned to marry a guy younger than herself. In fact, before she met my father, she once swore that she would never even date a guy younger than her. But look what happened in the end, they fell in love and age no longer mattered.
Here are some of the pros and cons you may face once you marry someone younger than you.
- Marriage life can be a lot more exciting
If you’re married to someone older, he may be more serious and would prefer to keep things mature most of the time. However, being married to a younger man may spice things up a little more as he can be more adventurous compared to an older guy. Your dates may still be able to consist of fun activities like hiking or going to concerts which are less likely to happen with someone older.
- You feel younger when you’re with a younger man
Since they are more adventurous, they’re able to bring out the more youthful and vibrant side of you. When you’re older than him, he’ll view you as a smarter person and feel the need to always please or impress you. This also applies to the fact that a younger guy will have more stamina and you’ll be able to feel younger even in the bedroom.
- Less baggage
The younger and less experienced a man is, the more open he’ll be in a relationship with you. While you may bring your ex-boyfriends with you when you enter a new relationship, a younger guy is most likely to pack less. Just like my parents, my mother had one boyfriend before she was with my father while my mother is my father’s first and last girlfriend.
- Lack of financial security
You might feel a little insecure when you already have a successful and established career while he’s only getting started with his own. Or worse, some women end up being more of a mother-figure instead of an equal partner. As some women would describe marrying a younger man as, “raising a child”. Some men may not even be okay with this as he could not accept the fact that he is unable to provide for you.
- Feeling like he doesn’t understand your problems
When he’s younger, he may appear to be a little childish when you’re expressing your problems to him. There are chances where you’ll feel as though he doesn’t understand you when you confide in him. He may be comforting you in his own way, by taking what you said to him lightly in hopes of cheering you up but that may not be what you need.
- Having different goals
Due to him being younger or from a different generation, both of you may see things differently. You may want certain things in life while he wants something completely different. For example, you plan to have children before you reach your 40s but he doesn’t seem to be ready for a baby anytime soon yet.
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