If you’ve been watching the news lately, there’s been a lot of panic around Singapore’s ‘declining birth rate’. People just aren’t having babies anymore.
But let’s look at the numbers. Sure, the country hit a record low of just 1.05 births per woman in 2022 (far below the replacement level of 2.1).
But is this really a cause to panic? Last we checked, the country is as crowded as ever; do we really need more babies?
We’ve heard all the reasons: an ageing population, a shrinking workforce, a falling economy. But should we really be worried as the average citizen trying to make it through another day?
The government seems to think so, why else are they doling out increasingly generous Baby Bonus schemes to married couples? Despite this, Singaporeans aren’t taking the bait.
We know that no cash handout can compensate for the very real, very complex issues that come with raising a child nowadays.
Time to break down the core of the real issue, one uncomfortable truth at a time.
Why No One’s Having Babies
The reasons why Singaporean women are opting out of motherhood are many—and deeply valid.
It’s not just about being ‘too picky’ or ‘too career-minded’, as some traditionalists might have it. Here’s what people are really dealing with:
- Rising cost of living: From housing to education to basic groceries, Singapore is one of the most expensive cities in the world. Bringing up a child in such an environment feels financially unsustainable for many.
- Career responsibilities: Many women are choosing to prioritise their careers—not because they’re selfish, but because society has conditioned them to believe their worth lies in productivity, not parenting.
- Fertility problems: Delayed parenthood due to career or financial insecurity often leads to difficulties with conception, adding another layer of complexity.
- Personal choice: Some simply don’t want children—and that should be respected. Choosing a childfree life is no longer taboo.
- Environmental concerns: A growing number are anxious about climate change and overpopulation, questioning the morality of bringing a child into a world on fire.
The ‘Motherhood Penalty’
But perhaps the problem runs deeper than all of that.
Let’s talk about how Singaporean society treats mothers. Despite the shiny image of progress, we still live in a system that punishes women for becoming parents.
Ever heard of the ‘motherhood penalty’? If you’re a woman who has a child, you probably have experienced some form of this phenomenon even if you never learned the terminology.
To boil it down, the ‘motherhood penalty’ is a string of societal repercussions that women often face. It often involves career stagnation, lower pay, and subtle discrimination after having children.
There’s also a glaring lack of sufficient childcare support to working mothers who have to make a living whilst also looking after a baby.
Maternity leave, while present, is not always enough, and affordable childcare options are limited. Many workplaces still cling to rigid, outdated expectations that make it difficult for parents (especially mothers) to balance work and family life.
It doesn’t help that Singapore’s work culture mirrors the karoshi-style grind of Japan.
Late nights, overwork, and the glorification of productivity leave little room for family life. Under late-stage capitalism, parenting feels less like a joy and more like a liability—one that disproportionately burdens women.
Money’s Not the (Only) Problem
How has the government been tackling this issue, you may ask? By throwing money at the problem, of course!
The Baby Bonus scheme offers cash gifts and co-savings to help with child-raising expenses. In 2023, the Budget included increased payouts and more support for young families. Sounds amazing, right?
But let’s be honest—these are a temporary plaster on a deep and festering wound.
Financial incentives may sweeten the deal for couples already planning to have children, but they are far from a deciding factor for the hesitant or unwilling.
Raising a child isn’t a one-time cost—it’s a lifelong commitment, emotionally and economically. And a one-time bribe isn’t worth it.
When that commitment comes with societal judgment, lack of flexibility at work, and no real support systems, a cheque isn’t going to change anyone’s mind.
There’s also something deeply dehumanising about treating children as future workers.
Babies aren’t just economic units.
Framing them as replacements for an ageing workforce ignores their humanity and the needs of the women expected to birth and raise them.
Mothers aren’t factories, and children aren’t machines. Let’s bring some human values into how we see this issue.
Are More Babies Really Better?
Singapore is already densely populated. Space is limited, and everyone feels the pressure. So, why the panic about our country’s declining birth rate?
The answer lies in an ageing population. With fewer young people, there’s concern about who will take care of the elderly and keep the economy going.
But if the solution is to push reluctant women into motherhood to fill a future labour gap, we’ve completely missed the point.
Until we tackle the deeper societal issues—gender inequality, toxic work culture, lack of affordable childcare, and the devaluation of caregiving—no amount of Baby Bonus payouts will reverse the trend.
Women will not willingly raise children in a country that does not respect, support, or value mothers (and women in general).
The falling birth rate isn’t a sign of societal failure.
It’s a wake-up call. It’s time we stopped asking why women won’t have children and started asking what kind of society we’re creating for those who do.
Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice from Mamahood. For any health-related concerns, it is advisable to consult with a qualified healthcare professional or medical practitioner.
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