Some of us have very chatty kids who would talk on and on, whether they\u2019re asked to or not. Whilst some of us have kids whom we need to pry things out from them. I have both of these, and so I had to learn how to cope with conversations from both my sons. As parents, we want to know everything about them, and when they spend so much time in school, we naturally want to know about their school going-ons too. If you aren\u2019t getting much out of your child, maybe here are some suggestions that may help you get a little more out of them. Here are some ways to ask children about their school day and get some answers that aren\u2019t monosyllables. One of my favourites that I always started with as soon as I picked up my kids was: "On a scale of 1 to 5, how happy were you in school today?\u201d Given the answer, I would ask more follow up questions like \u201cWhat happened that made you feel this happy\/unhappy?\u201d To get them talking more, always ask them open-ended questions. When they are talking, we need to give them our full attention and practise active listening. If you are not prepared to fully listen and pay them 100% attention, then leave the questions till later when you are able to focus on what they say. Children know when we are giving them our full attention and when we\u2019re not. More Questions To Get Your Child to Talk More About School: Image credit: Pexels \tWhat\u2019s the best thing that happened at school today? \tWhat\u2019s the most fascinating thing you learned today? \tWhat was challenging for you at school today? \tWhen was your least favourite time? \tWhich subject was most interesting for today and why? \tWhat did you most appreciate about at school today? \tWhat new thing did you learn or discover about yourself today? \tWhat are you looking forward to tomorrow? \tWhat\u2019s the best thing that someone said to you today? \tWhat\u2019s the worst thing that was said to you today? \tWhat made you feel proud of yourself today? \tDid you help someone with something today and what was it? \tDid someone help you with something today and what was it? Tips About Asking Children Communicative Questions Image credit: Pexels \tThese questions are not meant to be asked all in one day. Pick two to three, and leave the rest for another day. \tWhen your child is answering your questions, let him or her speak without interruption so that you can get the full story the way he or she wants to tell it. \tValidate their feelings as it\u2019s being related to you, so that your child feels heard and understood. Give them a safe path to tell it as it is, without worrying about being reprimanded for something that didn\u2019t go right. \tLet them know you appreciate them sharing their school day with you, and that you are always keen to listen to more. One of the things most parents are most worried about is whether our child is being bullied in school. Some children may try to hide the fact out of fear, or even feeling shameful of being bullied. If questions are unable to draw the answers, then we need to learn to recognise some signs of bullying instead. Where And When To Ask About Their School Day Image credit: Pexels I like to ask them about it as soon as they get picked up from school. But that may not be the case for everyone. You may want to ask just one preliminary question about school when you pick them up, and leave the rest for later when you feel is more conducive to talk. It can be during tea break or meal time, or if you have special time alone, or even during bedtime. It doesn\u2019t necessarily have to be a set time daily. You can probably sense the mood of your child and know when it feels right to ask him or her about the day\u2019s happenings. At the end of the day, we just want them to be able to communicate better with us about their day. As our child grows, we also need to adapt to different ways to communicate so that we can get them to keep talking to us.